I would like to direct this to those over 50, however this problem is far more widespread than with our over 40 crowd. What am I talking about? I am talking about the misuse of Facebook as an end-all means of communications. While I wish I had been on someone’s fab-five list when the original stock offering went out, it has done so well that we have now moved into a new era of Facebook Abuse (FBA).
FBA Rule One: Parents, whatever your age, your children do not want you to leave messages on their wall! This does not make you look cool, or them either for that matter. Facebook was originally designed for college students to interact with each other, and expanded as a tool that allows friends and/or peers to network. My 20 something children do not want their father or mother, whom I am sure they love, commenting on things they and their friends are discussing, or leaving messages for them about something one of their friends said. Believe it or not, they would prefer a text message or the almost outdated voice mail for that.
FBA Rule Two: Invite and/or accept people who you are friends with and who at some level are within a reasonable peer or interest group. Don’t ask people to be their friend simply because they are in the country that you live in! Accepting and/or inviting any and everybody who will agree to be your friend suggest confidence issues. Come on, I have seen people who have several thousand friends – right!
Finally, FBA Rule Three: Just because you like a game, or are going to an event, or have a cause, not everyone in your network is interested. I am sure Mafia Wars is a great game, and I am down for supporting breast cancer, and all other forms of cancer, but I can only join and participate in about a thousand things in one lifetime. So, the other nine thousand requests I have received to be part of a group, go to an event, or play a game, I will have to decline. Oh by the way, I will not be able to join the boat cruise this weekend in Canada I was invited to. Maybe next week after I read through the new level of requests, ignore invites from Korea, and decline my children who have requested to be my friend on Facebook!